Our comfort zone is our safe space. It may be boring or stressful or our own little happy place.
Whatever it is to you, did you ever think about stepping out of it? Just a little? One tiny toe?
Are there the risks? Rewards? Will it be worth it? Will you get hurt? Will there be bloodshed? Will comfort zone paramedics need to be called?
In my house, there are two zones.
My husband is smart, practical and successful. He’s adventurous as long as there is a mountain bike involved. However, he likes his comfort zone. He’s in it, he likes it, he has a little bed set up and he’s not stepping out – no how,no way. It’s even become our little joke.
I, on the other hand, step out. Sometimes I put my right foot out, my left foot out, my whole self out…sometimes I do the “Hokie Pokie” and turn myself about.
I always think of the first time I agreed to speak to a group of high school students when I was just starting my coaching business. Suffice it to say, it was a disaster! I had a major panic attack in my head while they all smiled innocently at me waiting for my proverbial words of wisdom. All I could think of was what would happen if I just ran out of the room right now…run..run!!
After I pulled myself together and was able to finish, I had a choice to make. I could either never speak in front of a group ever again or step out of my (in this case) disaster zone, and give it another try.
I knew if I wanted to get the word out there about my business, I had to put myself out there to do it!!
So the next time someone asked me to speak, I said, confident as you please:
“Sure, I’d love to be a presenter to a group of 40 to 50 women.” (Insert comfort zone voice saying ‘Have you lost your mind?’).
The morning of the presentation, I was sick to my stomach and praying for snow. My husband asked me why I was doing this to myself.
Was it worth it?
What would I gain?
My reply was that I HAD to do it. I had to push myself out of my comfort zone and get past the fear.
I wanted to do it.
I needed to do it.
I had to prove to myself that, when I was prepared, I could do it.
I had messages I wanted to share.
There were women I wanted to reach out to.
If I couldn’t do it, how could I expect others to take a chance on me and on themselves.
So that was almost six years ago, and I’ve been “Feeling the Fear and Doing It Anyway” ever since. Sometimes it’s something little, like trying a new vegetable (working on a plant-based diet – more to come on this crazy adventure ) and sometimes it’s big, like committing to a beach house retreat and THEN worrying about how I was going to fill it.
All that being said, what I hope you take away from this little ditty today is:
- New things ARE scary
- Yes, you may feel like you are going to be sick
- It’s okay because that nervous feeling in your stomach is the amazing feeling of YOU…GROWING, LEARNING, TRYING
- You will be truly living a life without “what if” regrets
- There shouldn’t really be blood, bandages or paramedics involved but if there are – you didn’t hear any of this from me. J
So, if you are even considering sticking your baby toe out of your comfort zone, I highly recommend. There is no time like the present.
Are you thinking about stepping out of your comfort zone? Share your thoughts~ I would love to hear about your adventures and support you.
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